Welcome to this month's newsletter - September is one of my favourite month's because it is the heralder of spring. As I write this today on the Spring Equinox, the sky is blue, the sun is shining, the trees are in bud, there are beautiful magnolia's everywhere and the first flush of yellow is being gifted to us by the kowhai.  There is real optimism in the air.  This is a time for planting and germinating seeds.  So what seeds do you want to plant - physically, mentally, emotionally?  What do you want to sow now for harvest later?  For things to grow to their full potential, it is important that we give them the space they need.   This is the same for us.  We also need space on all levels to grow to our full potential.  Below I have given some hints on how to create the space so you can be free - Space the Key to Freedom - this month's focus.
This month's essence the large Blue Calcite is a 'hot off the press' essence and is not yet listed on the website - it supports us creating space by helping us step back. More details below. 
There is also a survey included this month as I often get details of courses, events and other inspirational opportunities that some of you will be interested in and some not.  The survey is an opportunity for you to let me know which 'bits' you would be happy knowing about in addition to this newsletter. 

Included this month's are:

• Blue Calcite - this month's essence

• Food for Thought - Giving vs Gifting in our relationships
  

• Survey- an opportunity to be notified of additional information and courses.
  

   Food for Thought   

I love the synchronicity with which life works - as my ideas around relationships were percolating, I heard on the radio pretty much the exact same words I had spoken to a client earlier in the week about what giving in a relationship meant - a lovely experience of how supported we are when we are aware enough to listen!  But I digress, how do we give our best in relationships?

Often when we talk of giving in relationships we think of giving something, a present perhaps or maybe the giving we do is the giving of ourselves, continually compromising to keep 'them' with with us or dependant upon us, or is it compromising our values or actions to keep the peace?  As I thought of relationships and giving, I realised that the best 'giving' we can do is to ask ourselves what can I gift to this person. 

To me, gifting is giving with honour.  Where we honour the other person, where we honour the sacredness of who they are and the relationship you have.  

It doesn't matter whether they are your partner, parent, child, grandchild, friend or work colleague. If we put our attention fully on them, and ask 'what can I gift them' the answer will come.  It may be your full attention, some time with you, your honesty, your support. 

I have found this is a great way to change the dynamics of any relationship.  Try it when you are feeling distant from your partner, when you are dealing with a difficult child, you are wanting to move past the interactions of the past - anywhere you can better relationships. 

You could even try it on yourself - What can I gift myself? 

Go for it and see what happens. Create some sacredness around your relationships.

Survey - let me know what additional news you want

The IntoLight Emag is due out 1st October.  You can access this via the web:
www.intolightmagazine.com
Into Light Magazine is an an individual and unique magazine, with the intention of being an information hub and an avenue of free speech, with the aim to share, enlighten and inspire.

I have a regular column on my Crystal Essences each month and will be writing articles from time to time. 

Wanting some assistance with determining what seeds you want to plant?

I have two fabulous friends who could help you determine what seeds you want to plant this spring for an abundant harvest next year.  Click on their names to go through to their websites for more details.

Janelle Fletcher - the Confidence Coach is based in Mairangi Bay.

Tessa Jonassen of Harmonia is based in Albany.

And of course I would be happy to support you with some healing and remedies as well!

Space - the Key to Freedom

For most of us, our daily lives are full to the brim.  We rush here, meet deadline after deadline, barely find time to eat never mind catch up with friends or family or heaven forbid, take time out to read a book, lie in the sun, do a jigsaw with our children... We wonder how we are going to get the washing done, dry and folded before we go to that meeting etc etc. 

What else in the world is as busy as us humans all day every day?  Even ants rest!  The reality is that ensuring we have enough space in our lives on all levels provides freedom for us.  It allows us to be who we really are, whilst also providing the opportunity for us to experience the magic of making the right call at the right time - we get into the flow that allows us to ride the river going where we want to go.

An example of this was told to me by a friend of mine recently.  Her work involves contracts so there can be some anxiety around where and when the next lot of money is coming. However, she is a woman of huge integrity and value and despite being offered 2 jobs prior to winter that ticked the work and good pay boxes, she turned them down because they did not align with her values.  So for four months, there was no work, a garage that could be a second dwelling being built and lots of space and time.  Gathering her courage my friend contacted a woman whose organisation's work and values she really liked and volunteered to work for free with them.  The woman responded saying that they would love her assistance and that they would employ her to do so.  A great example of how creating space and holding the space combined with some courage creates a fulfilling outcome.

By creating and holding space, we also allow others to blossom, to find their own truth. We allow ourselves to blossom and find our own truth.  What better gift can we give?  So how do you create space?  Or if it has been created for you, perhaps due to loss of or lack of employment, relationship break-up, loss of partner or significant people in your live, moving or children leaving home, how do you hold the space and work with the potential that life has for us all?

Breathe - this simple act of creating space within your lungs by expanding (inhaling) and then exhaling creates space for your diaphragm to move - which massages your bowel, liver, pancreas and stomach.  it promotes the movement of energy not to mention settles your nervous system, calming it down - soothing your rattled nerves.

Eat less - Many ancient texts advise only eating til you are 2/3rds full.  This allows enough space for your food to be fully digested - which in turn ensures you get the maximum benefit from your food.  It will also give you more energy if your digestive system isn't overloaded.  Digestion takes a large amount of energy to occur, so eating less will give you more energy.

Listen more - Listening provides the space for others to feel heard, held and listened to.  True listening is a real gift and provides a nurturing space - one that allows others to grow and find their own truth.  Try for a week to just listen without the need to put forth your opinion, just put your attention fully on the person - make eye contact and look at them, give them the gift of you and your presence not your personality.

Speak less - Use your words wisely, do you say in five sentences what can be said in one?  Do you have a tendency to over speak - to keep talking to make sure people have heard you or perhaps you speak over of others?  In my role as a mother, I know I have a tendency to do both of the above.  Yet what I find is that often just having the thought mentally is enough to communicate with my children or my husband eg many times I have thought - 'I wonder what I will cook for dinner tonight' when within a minute or so either or both of my children have asked 'what's for dinner tonight?'    I have used this connection wisely when I have a wish for them to do something eg feeding the pets.  I have said to myself mentally - the pets need feeding and within a few moments they are being fed with no words spoken.  How much easier that is on the house than nagging!

Spring Clean - remove clutter and clear spaces so you can breathe at an energetic level as well. This is always a feel-good exercise.  It can create an entirely new reality for you.  Get rid of anything that you don't love or has a purpose.  Just because Aunty Mildred gave it to you doesn't mean you have to keep it, especially if you dislike it.  Pass it do someone who will love it.

Be Still - silence allows space for creativity to flow, your inner wisdom to be heard and your courage to be accessed. Turn off your radio, sit in the silence and be.

While busyness has its place and can mean we are productive, we are often more productive if our energy is not scattered trying to hold all the bits of our lives together.  Creating space in our lives creates a vaccum for what we desire to come in. It provides space for us to see what is really important and where we want to put our energy.  It enables us to live our lives in integrity and for the magic to unfold.

Go well creating your space, planting your seeds and enjoying the magic!

This Month's Essence Profile: 

Blue Calcite (large) - This remedy gifts you freedom of choice. It enables us to step back and discern what our choices are so we get led less along the path in an unconscious way.  Also helps us work in the Important/Not Urgent quadrant of Stephen Coveys.  Dealing with the non urgent but important stuff of our lives means we move away from the crisis management way of operating because less gets to the urgent stage and if something urgent does appear, you have the space to deal with it without compromising anything else.  This remedy gives us enough distance to see the choices we can make and therefore gives us options. 

To support this month's theme of space and gifting in our relationships I would recommend combining Blue Calcite (large) with the following:

1: Pink Tourmaline - Helps us dissolve the barriers we erect between ourselves and others.  Opens our heart to others. 

2: Rhodonite - this remedy helps us lift to the heights of right living and loving.  It frees the ties so we can relate in an adult heart centred way, with no expectations on or of others.  Also helps free up spaces specifically in the ribs and spine and lets love flow in. 

3: Green Calcite - this remedy helps us get out of our woundology and stories and see what is really there.  Takes our blinkers off and really see/hear, lifts the veils but gives us distance as well.  This distance creates the space we need to allow impartiality in so we can respond with diplomacy and tact.

To order any of these individually please click here and scroll down the page and select the remedy or if you would like this specific combination please email me (Cost: $20 + P&P)

Or alternatively if there is something else you would like me to make a personalised combination for please email me including any details on what you would like to achieve or issues you would like to resolve. (Cost: $30 + P&P)

  Words of Wisdom

 'Create sacredness in the everyday is easy. 
Simply honour whomever or whatever you are with.'
Debbie Gillespie

UPCOMING EVENTS OCTOBER 

Best of the West - Sunday 9th October 2011, 10.00am - 10.00pm. This event will be loads of fun.  It is being organised by the Auckland City Council and should be an awesome showcase for visitors to the west.  It is being run as part of the RWC so for non-rugby fans, be aware that there will be a big screen showing the day's game. There will be loads of stalls including animals, rock climbing, face painting for the kids, a pamper tent, wine tasting and more.  I have an outside stall with my massage chair easing a few aching muscles! My only RWC participation!
At Kumeu Showgrounds, Access Rd, Kumeu.